Notes on a Barbecue

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22 thoughts on “Notes on a Barbecue

  1. Great retort to the “naysayers” and those who disagree with your musings at the BBQ! LOL! I am one of the 99% that thought “The Guide” was HILARIOUS, spot on, and in no way offensive or “shucking and jiving”!!! I say, continue to agree to disagree, and PLEEZ LAWD, write the follow-up! I’m thoroughly looking forward to it!

    I love K-Hart, but dislike (most of) Tyler Perry’s work! But, like you said, to each their own! We can’t all be the same! Or this world would be pretty boring!

  2. Just read your cookout piece. Brilliant writing, sir. Can’t please them all, so cherish those you appreciate your craft and the rest can eat a buffet of dicks. At least, that’s what I tell myself. Anywho, you’ve earned a new fan.

  3. I like your writing style, I get your humor. With that being said, keep it coming! BTW. The comedian, Gary Owen did a video about a Black church . It’s on YouTube. I thought it was funny.

  4. Very funny, thank you, and educational as well, so many references I had to Google. Please do write the church article, I’d love to read it. Can I ask a real white-ass cracker type question? Do folks worshipping in a black church feel resentful when a white person attends, like I’ve invaded their privacy? I remember Dr. King saying the most segregated hour in America is on Sunday morning.

    1. Yes; the church piece, please! Because, a) humor, & b) the smear that came closest to wrecking Obama’s 1st presidential campaign wasn’t the “birther” nonsense – it was White America’s frothing-at-the-mouth outrage over a 6-year-old sermon in which his pastor referenced Malcolm X* & was like, way too ~thought-provoking~ & Gospelly & stuff.

      *Depressing Pro-Tip: the only thing most white ppl know about Malcolm X is that Denzel played him in that Spike Jones movie we didn’t see.

  5. I loved your writing! I’m a white girl that grew up in Newark N J. I also went to a black babtist church all day on Saturday. Ii also have more black friends than white. I thought your article was very funny and on point! I can’t wait to read more from you. By the way I love Tyler and Kevin also! Peace

  6. I loved the article – especially the spades part. Write what you feel. Not everyone is going to like or understand everything. I thought you were very respectful. We need to laugh at ourselves and share more about each other. Write the church article – and please many more after that.

  7. No author or producer can please them all. Tyler Perry and Kevin Hart have the same racial retorts by critics. The retorts do not make them pause at all. You write for you and what comes from your heart, for others to see, NOT to please them. You’re learning to let it roll off your back. Fuck it. And no more notes in response to criticism. It gives them power over you.
    Yes, I almost fell out from choking on the Boston part. #Memories

  8. As a white girl who has been to a cookout, I had tears (of laughter) the ENTIRE time I read your piece. As a white girl who has been to a black church, I’m so looking forward the laughing some more (possibly even snorting). You impart good wisdom and clear instruction 🙂 As a human living in this country of ours right now, I sincerely applaud you for adding some levity to tense times and for celebrating differences while bridging them – brilliant.

  9. I grew up in an area where almost everyone within at least a fifty-mile radius was the same color as me, but I’ve also lived in a country where my appearance marked me as an obvious foreigner. I learned the language and often listened patiently while people speculated about me (sometimes pejoratively), assuming I could not understand them. When they finished, I politely greeted them, wished them well, etc. as their custom dictated. The look on their faces was invariably worth the wait.

    My career afforded me many wonderful opportunities to teach, study, and sometimes immerse myself in other cultures. A second career allowed me to work among people from many different countries on a daily basis. Trading little bits of language and other information was great fun. While we routinely say it is human nature to notice our differences, I contend it’s human habit. The more I traveled, the more I realized how much we all have in common.

    Nonetheless, what anyone else thinks about you matters not a bit compared to what you see in the mirror. I trust you like what you see. Typically, self-worth—which is developed through experiences and choices—shows itself to other people and they embrace it. Of course, they are also quick to detect the absence of it regardless of language and/or other barriers. If we cannot laugh at ourselves and even our own heritage, what right do we have to laugh at/with others?

  10. Excellent writing style and hysterically funny. Sometimes being funny offends certain people and those people are uptight assholes. Keep up the writing! I will be reading!!

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